Why I’m Destined For Aloneness and Why It’s a Good Thing

If I ask myself whether I want to have someone close to me who’s constantly there, the honest answer is a firm no.

Such a choice feels so natural to me as it’s natural for fish to live in water; I feel sadness and compassion for some who try to squeeze themselves into an unsuitable-for-them-box labelled ‘relationships’, so that to be approved by the society.

Although I have a few really close friends in my life, they’re not in India, and thus I hardly see them. Apart from these few souls there are really no close people in my life.

I’ve noticed that whenever I meet someone that’s on the same vibe, something always happens to part our ways. It’s really not a personal belief, since I was always open to meet like-minded people. But my recent reflection on all like-minded people that I met showed the same pattern of parting of the ways.

I cannot ignore this pattern anymore, and I came to the conclusion that this happens because I’m not supposed to have close friends living near me and having access to me all the time. The probable reason for this is that having such close friends would keep me in the Maya, in the action of life, rather than being a spectator of the Earth’s play. Also, being in constant contact with certain people would influence me sooner or later, and the only influence I want to be affected by is God’s.

Since my purpose in life is to help others to grow by observing the world and my life and sharing conclusions with readers, that would be tough to do if I’m fully in the action of life. How can an actor fully focused on his play be also aware of what the film producer is planning next, and what’s going on behind the scenes? People fully involved in the interaction with others and the world have no time to reflect on the true nature of existence, and without such reflection there would be no eye-opening revelations.

Since Life always discouraged me from attachments, I have no real investment in this world. I don’t own a house; I don’t even have a pet or expensive stuff to worry about. I guess the most expensive stuff I own is my laptop (which is not that expensive), and a good quality microphone, which I’m thinking of giving away since it’s too heavy to travel with.

This lack of pricey possessions keeps my mind peaceful, and it’s not preoccupied with daily worries about subscription payments, the stuff getting stolen, and responsibilities created out of such ownership. So since my mind is not weighted down by such thoughts about the world, it naturally rises to grasp higher concepts.

The Universe always through my inner voice and feelings warned me to avoid things that would chain me to this Earth. This ‘attachment indicator’ is very strong in me, and I know far in advance about something having the capability of binding me to Earth, and thus I avoid it. Some people, not having such sensitivity, bind themselves in matter and, when chains become too heavy, realize the mistake they’ve made.

I’m truly blessed to have listened to that quiet voice, and to always have said no to things that would keep my soul caged. Though some things appear really good and nice at the beginning, when you’ve ‘signed up’ for them, they turn out to be your oppressors.

Strong relationships, marriage, kids, mortgage, and similar things would have been too oppressing for my soul, involving me too deeply into the action of living, and weakening the bond with the Divine. Though to some people these things may not be oppressing at all – it all depends on the lessons you came to learn here, and which ones you’ve already learnt.

So if you, too, find yourself always alone, and not attached to anything in this world, maybe it’s a message the Universe wants you to get. Maybe you’re not supposed to have an active social life or be invested into too much stuff; maybe you’re destined to be an observer of the world, not troubled by worries about the accumulated stuff, so that you can see the forces of life at play, understand the mechanism of life, and share your awareness with those so much involved with the world that they’re blind to such matters.

Resource: simonarich.com